The art seems to have died, no thanks to technology
In the soft sunlight of winters, sunning in the back verandah, one could hear the sharp sound of the cycle bell and the doorbell that sounded as the postman pushed the mail with a promising ‘sshhhhh’ sound from under the main door. The pale blue pre-stamped envelopes or the white ones with square brown stamps affixed to them, lying on the floor and sent from assorted cousins and my father’s brothers, both abroad. In case of the latter, the brighter pink stamps showing the face of the queen with her crown, a half faded stamp across her face. Stamps that I would later carefully take off the envelopes and put away in a diary.
Writing of letters takes my mind to Mirza Ghalib, Jane Austen, Paul of Tarsus to name a few. What pieces of art! I especially love one by Mirza Ghalib, written to Munshi Hargopal Tufta, part of which I reproduce, “There is a new phrase in vogue these days — the new nawabs — and it is in common use for both Hindus and Muslims. What happens is that when a man of means dies, his son inherits his wealth. He is surrounded by sycophants, and these despicable people start fawning on him. They tell him that “such and such courtesan is dying for you, such and such nobleman wants to invite you to his palace. It is but fair that you send for that courtesan and invite the noble to your house. This is how one should live. No one takes his riches to the next world. Did your late father take anything with him that you will take yours with you?”
I used to be a phenomenal letter writer in my young age. My desire to virtuously travel to other countries led me to make pen pals from other countries, across cultures. I remember one pen pal Ann from America with particular fondness; I still have most of those letters. Beautiful glimpses in an unseen world. A part of preserving history. I loved the feel of writing on papers. Either white or pale blue, no margins. A soft gloss to the surface that made the pen flow. Later, to cater to different tastes many types of letter writing pads found their way in the market. These ranged from tasteful variety from the one with white background and a delicate blue forget-me-not at one side to pale pink paper turning into darker pink at the other end, cluttered with flying doves, multi coloured butterflies and in some designs with Urdu verses, the type one usually reads on colourful Pakistani trucks. One verse I recall clearly in spite of the decades that have slipped by:
Kal chodween ki raat thi balti mein tera aks dekha,
Aur phir balti hila hila kar rat bhar tera raks dekha
I never met Begum Hafiza, my paternal grandmother, the granddaughter of the Nawab of Gandara. A woman of reputed startling beauty with a height of five feet and ten inches. She was married to my grandfather Syed Yousuf Ali, a Judge from Hyderabad Deccan, three inches shorter to her in height.
He was the scion of the family of Hazrat Syed Shah Abdul Razaqq Banswi of Bansa Sharif to whom the House of Farangi Mahal were designated Khalifas.
She died an early death, way before my father was married. My father, and his two brothers, were brought up by my eccentric grandfather in a house with no female presence. I came to know this amazing woman through her letters written to my father. At that time, she was still in Hyderabad Deccan with her husband and my father had come to Pakistan to look for a job. A young man in his early twenties. Going through my father’s library, I came across the bundle of letters that revealed my grandmother to me. The family politics. I laughed, I cried and smiled as I read those letters. To this day, they remain a cherished possession, locked away in a box that originally belonged to my paternal grandfather. Her love for my father, whom she called Chand, and Chand he remained for the rest of his life, reflected itself in her writings. Every four days delay from my father in sending a letter to her merited at least two from her expressing her concern at the delay. Though these letters may not amount to much for others, it introduced to me my grandmother, her strong likes and dislikes and the strength of her character.
Jane Austen was a prodigious letter writer. Most of those that survived are addressed to her much loved sister Cassandra. Most of her letters are deposited at The Morgan, and the department of Literary and Historical Manuscripts has nearly two-thirds of her letters. Laura Boyle traces the exquisite history of love letters and talks at length about them in her beautifully written piece, The History of Love Letters. She writes, “The nineteenth century spawned the great private love letters of Beethovan to his “Immortal Beloved”, as well as the literary romance of poets Robert Browning and Elizabeth Barrett.”
Sa’adat Hasan Manto’s first letter to Jawahar Lal Nehru is a piece of art. I share an excerpt:
“Pundit-ji, this is the season for babbogoshas. I’ve eaten lots of goshas, but I long to eat babbogoshas. What injustice that you’ve given Bakshi all the rights over them and he does not send me even a few as a gift! Well, let the gift go to hell, babbogoshas too… No, on a second thought, let them be. Actually, I wanted to ask you: Why don’t you read my books? If you’ve read them, I’m sorry to say that you’ve never appreciated them. However, it is more regrettable if you have not read them at all, because you are a writer yourself.
“I have one more grievance against you. You’re stopping water from flowing in our rivers, and taking a cue from you, the publishers in your capital are hurriedly publishing my books without my permission. Is this proper? I thought that no such unseemly act could be perpetrated under your regime. You can find out right away how many publishers in Delhi, Lucknow, and Jallundhar have pirated my books. Several suits have already been filed against me on charges of obscenity. But look at the injustice that in Delhi, right under your nose, a publisher brings out the collection of my stories and calls it The Obscene Stories of Manto.”
The letter is tongue-in-cheek, naughty and pinches where it is supposed to pinch.
As we live in a digital age, the letters are no more. E-mails, WhatsApp, Viber etc have uprooted letter writing. Whereas geographically these forms of digital communication have brought people closer, it has taken away for us a part of our self, our roots. I read somewhere and completely agree with the thought, “Loquacious letters and epistolary exchanges between authors are falling by the wayside in the digital age – and readers and literary estates are all the poorer for it.”
Dear Yasmeen Aftab Ali:
ASA! Your e-mail is an excellent reminder about the way Technology has impacted our society. The next generationis is not taught in schools about writing any longer. The other thing caused by Digital Technology in many developed countries is to eliminate human interaction, causing loss of jobs. Your e-mail ought to remind people that this is not progress. Please keep up the good work. With best wishes,
Bashir A. Syed
Retired Aerospace Physicist
Fulbright Scholar & Member Union of Concerned Scientists
Yes how true, The Post office and the family friendly POST MAN Has also faded away. In NAs, where the terrain was very difficult due to extreme weather the post man always delivered his mail with pride. I recall across BURZAIL PASS In ASTORE sector the Post men had made their own wooden Skies and would travel across the pass in these make shift skies to deliver the mail. The Mail during 1978-80, three years that I commanded an NLI unit at Gilgit and later at OLDING opposite Kargil, the letters from home were long awaited. The mail was linked with the PIA flight. When ever the flight was delayed for days due to bad weather, it meant a sadness across the forward posts. The Mail would be delayed. Everyone would talk on the bad line connections YAR AAJ tu the PIA KI FLIGHT BHI NAHI AI?
Yasmeen, having been a prolific letter writer myself, writing on behalf of my grand aunts to their families, for my grand mother to her sibblings and then my own love letters in my teens, I cried all the way through your column. Gone are those days. Sigh!
These days students dont know the face and denomination of stamps, leave alone visiting a Post Office to see how letters are posted.
The letters you have quoted are some of the best. Thank you for this almost literary piece.
Dear Ayesha,
Thank you for a lovely response. I have hundreds of letters saved. I love rereading them. And yes, I have often written on behalf of my Nanni to her daughter in laws.
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Fond Regards
Yasmeen
I am now hunting for those love letters which were quietly reposted to me by my aunt–angry for having written to her son who was myown age. Ha ha haaaaaaa
Love n best wishes
Thank you so much for your column . Love it
Agree totally .
There is nothing more intimate and pleasurable as form of communication . Something to behold and treasure .
Love writing and receiving letters and cards
WOW. Yasmeen rekindled sweet memories. Yes, like many, I too had pen-friends and learnt a lot about their family and social lives. More importantly, letters were the most desired communication with my parents while I was in USA as a student. Long distance calls were time-consuming and costly. So . . . in my tooti phooti Urdu, I managed to keep my mother up-to-date with my life in a distant land. Those were the days, when letters were the source of sanity. Thanx Yasmeen. An excellent topic. Nostalgic too.
Majyd so glad you enjoyed my humble effort.
Thank you very much for a nice reminder, dear Yasmeen. We have forgotten lots of sweet sounds in this 'engaged life'! Writing letter have been a favorite hobby of the people in history. It has been a form of record as well but due to the advent of technology, we lost all of this. I myself miss such nice activity.
Thank you so much for your column . Love itLetter writing helps a person form sentences and also learn the nuances of language. Helps people 'de-stress'.
Cursive writing is a thing of the past now. Records left for posterity, form the basis for authenticity in history.
In the Northern Areas, we used to have a mail run twice a month in which we used to deliver letters to forward post by helicopters. There used to be times when the weather would turn nasty and the mail run could not take place for weeks. At every sortie, the entire manpower of the post used to come to the helipad to receive their "dak".
The postman used to be known as "harkara". They had their own role to play in delivering letters but after the snows used to block the land route, it was only helicopters that could take the mail to the forward areas.
Shasi Deshpande with her That Long Silence…
Thanks Yasmeen Ali for a wonderful tour to history and my good days. A beautiful article as ever expected from you but this is a tour note too through every one of our age ' s life. I would add here that it was a pleasure to write letters but I describe the feelings of waiting for "special letters". Stay blessed
Reading the article was like Poetry itself. God Bless.
Thanks. Twitter has sounded death knell to the culture of ……………………………
." خط لکھیں گے گر چہ مطلب کچھ نہ ھو"
Very interesting——–Yasmeen Saheba.
Since you have mentioned Ghalib (who was married to the daughter of Elahi Bux Khan Al-Maroof's daughter Umrao Begum…is in humzoureeyatt with me…as the elder brother of Elahi Bux was Nawab Ahmed Bakhsh Khan, the first Nawab of the 9 Gun State Loharu at Ferozepur Jhirka….which still survives. Nawab Ahmed Bakhsh Khan is the Great Grandfather of my Grand Father Nawab Sir Amiruddin Ahmed Khan…who's grandfather was a student and favourite of Ghalib. His name: Nawab Allauddin Ahmed Khan Alai….to whom Ghalib wrote many letters—including the attached one so well recited by Zia Mohyeddin…
True No more letter writings ” Khut” earlier shairs used to say in their ghazals ” Hum ney sanam ko khat lekha … ” now in this digital days they will say ” Hum ney sanam ko E mail kiya E mail mein …..” u r so correct that the readers and literary estates are all the poorer for it.
“Tongue in cheek”
Reminds me
The Canterbury Tales
By Geoffrey Chaucer
As several others have already said, this is interesting very well written. I am always amazed at your way with words, Yasmeen. You have the ability to weave personal experiences with weightier items of history, philosophy and education. Keep up the good work!
Time always goes forward. In another about 50 years or so these social media would be history (as letter writing is today). Present young generation when reach our age (above 55) they would too reminesce about the Facebook, WhatsApp, viber etc.
I agree with you that writing a letter and receiving one was pretty special. You have rekindled some fond memories though.
A beautiful article as ever expected from you but this is a tour note too through every one of our age ' s life. I would add here that it was a pleasure to write letters but I describe the feelings of waiting for best.
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