Divorce is a major ethical and social issue of the world. It separates couples and ends marriages. Islam asks to avoid it as much as possible. Divorce rates are climbing through the roof these days. Research shows at least 50 percent of marriages will end in divorce in America. If the current ratios continue the world over, this trend can also hit Pakistan. Divorce has many causes, just in the same way it has many effects.
Financial issues are one of the main reasons of divorce. Financial problems, like unemployment or low income, can hurt marriages. Couples can become habitual of using financial resources beyond their reach or can fall a victim of excessive spending. These factors can cause disagreements between them. Unemployment causes depression, panic, anxiety, blame, fear, and the worse of all, feeling of helplessness. Blaming the unemployed spouse for the issue can collapse a marriage. Unequal financial position is another financial issue. For example, if one spouse, such as the female, makes more money than the other spouse, fear and jealousy may creep in, leading to anger, disagreement and eventually divorce.
According to the research, not all marriages fail for the same reasons. Communication is also one of the problems between couples. This may happen even before the marriage. Couples may not communicate with each other because of various issues that each individual may be experiencing or if the expectations are not clear from the beginning of a relationship. Sometimes it happens immediately after the marriage due to ego or hesitation.
Talking about your feelings in a marriage is important because then you can figure out exactly how to improve a relationship. Feelings left unaddressed can fail a marriage. Also if a couple does not communicate pre-marital issues before marriage, they will realise during the marriage that things should have been settled up before.
These issues can get worse with time. But this type of understanding is usually not found in Pakistani society.
The third major reason for divorce is love and teenage marriages. People in love can make irrational decisions unsuitable to their conditions. This type of marriage is not, mostly, socially acceptable in Pakistan.
We live in a society and we must follow the norms and traditions of a society. Divorce affects the couples, their children, their families and the society in general.
It should be avoided as much as possible by following the norms and traditions of the society we live in.
MUHAMMAD SHAHID RIAZ
Lahore
Yes, you say the true thing about the divorce. Your all of causes in most important one lettering to me. Which makes me careful about my marriage life. I hope every one most must be alert about the Pakistan divorce causes after seen your post.
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