“You’re born free, you have to live free”, says Pakistan’s top female squash player, Toorpakai

LONDON: Maria Toorpakai lived as a rebel ever since she was a little girl, since that is when she burnt all her dresses in the back yard and chopped her hair short. For the next decade she lived as a boy.

Toorpakai was born and raised in in Pakistan’s South Waziristan, a tribal region neighbouring Afghanistan and troubled by the TTP.

She was four when she realised that boys enjoyed more freedom than girls in her region and that she wanted to play with them but couldn’t.   and she wanted to play their games. However, she quickly realised she would have to dress as a boy to do so. She soon realised that in order to fit in with the boys she would have to dress up like them as well.

But she succeeded in doing this mainly because her father encouraged her to nurture her sporting talents. referred to her as his son and called her Genghis Khan after the Mongolian warrior – because she was strong and aggressive.

But as all things go, her secret eventually came out, resulting in death threats from Taliban for letting a “girl” play “boys” games.

“Where I come from girls are not allowed to play sport. Playing sport is an extreme act. I broke all the laws,” said Toorpakai whose story is told in the film “Girl Unbound”, which received its British premiere on Wednesday when it was screened at the Human Rights Watch Film Festival in London.

At 16, Toorpakai came third in the World Junior Squash Championships and was presented with an award by then-President Pervez Musharraf. She also received her first death threat.

“It was all over the news that I was the first Pashtun girl from Waziristan playing sports at an international level,” she told the Thomson Reuters Foundation.

“My family got threats from the Taliban – death threats. They said we were tribal people and shouldn’t be doing this and we should be following Islamic rules and making sure that our women stay home.”

In a region where women are required to cover up and many wear the burqa, the Taliban were also outraged by Toorpakai’s shorts and sports skirts.

Concerned about her family’s safety amid escalating militant violence, Toorpakai locked herself away for three years at home, practising squash in secret against her bedroom wall.

Profoundly frustrated, she fired off hundreds of emails to clubs and coaches around the world, eventually moving to Canada in 2011 when her plea for help was answered by former world champion Jonathan Power.

Toorpakai, now 26, credits much of her success to her unconventional father, Shamsul Qayyum Wazir, who unlike most men in Waziristan, made no distinction between his sons and daughters. Her sister, Ayesha Gulalai, is a politician and member of the National Assembly.

“My father taught me never to be scared of anyone,” she said. “He always taught me that men and women are born from the same mother – there’s no difference.

“The difference is if you think you’re weak, you will be weak. Girls are usually taught to be weaker. But in reality they are very strong.”

Her father, a teacher who describes himself as a rebel, says his attitudes were partly shaped by talking to hippies from Europe who visited the region when he was a young man.

Toorpakai, who has her sights set on becoming one of the top players in the world, trains in Toronto but regularly visits her family in Pakistan who still get threats. Her father records all phone calls and the family are cautious about their movements.

“The Taliban and extremists do not like how we do things in our family,” her father comments in the film.

But Toorpakai says attitudes are starting to change. Parents in Waziristan are increasingly keen to give their girls more opportunities and are even naming their daughters after herself and her sister.

With her family’s help, Toorpakai is using her squash earnings to build a hospital in Bannu town for girls and women displaced by fighting in the tribal areas.

She is also setting up the Maria Toorpakai Foundation with the aim of building schools and sports facilities for children – especially girls – in her home region.

The squash player believes sport is hugely important for developing girls’ self-confidence.

“I’m trying to bring change for girls,” she says. “You’re born free – and you have to live free.”