‘Love’ is perhaps the most overrated, overused and misused word of all times. Individuals allot different meanings to this term, but no one has been able to come up with a globally accepted definition. Some say love is a language, others say it’s a fluctuation of hormones and yet others say it’s a state of being. Pakistan Today set out on a quest to help the readers find out when they’re in love. Here’s what our celebrities have to say about the crazy little thing called love.
The free fall experience Ali Zafar, who recently grabbed the Stardust Superstar of Tomorrow award has an interesting idea: “You can tell you’re in love when you feel you’re free falling”. Our very own Ali boy who is all set to release his romantic movie ‘London Paris New York’ feels that the best way to express your feelings is to be honest about the whole deal. “Just be yourself” he says. “Valentine’s day should be spent in love, in fact, your whole life should be spent in love,” adds the lover boy. His all time favourite love song is ‘Shape of my heart’.
Always on your mind Imran Abbas says it’s fairly easy to tell when you’re in love, “It is love when you think of a person as the last thing before going to bed and the first thing in the morning even before going to the loo.” His all time favourite love song is ‘Piyar kiya toh darna kiya’ and according to him the best way to express your loves is, “express it through small gestures, body language, small noticeable things before making it vivid and clear verbally.” He feels that every bit of this state must be fully enjoyed. He advises that one must not hesitate in expressing their feelings, “Life is too short so don’t waste it by keeping your feelings restricted in your heart.” Furthermore, “Valentines day should be spent everyday,” he says.
Time is the best test
Meesha Shafi candidly shares her personal experience, “You know it’s love when you withstand tough times. When you come out stronger in those times you can be sure that it’s meant to be. For my husband and I, that experience was his very serious bike accident. It happened between our engagement and wedding and in the end, the wedding was an even bigger celebration of our love.” L’Oreal spokesperson Meesha feels that consistency is an essential element, “If a relationship is to last, it has to survive beyond the newly in love, honeymoon phase when everything seems peachy.” Her favourite love song is ‘Tu Mera Dil’ by Ustad Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan and she recommends that this special day should be spent with your special someone, “No matter what you end up doing. Quality time together can even be a nice, relaxed day at home.”
When he/she comes first
Qurram Hussain feels that the perfect indicator of love is when “Your needs become secondary and that significant other comes first in everything”. Q of Josh who recently shot for his latest music video in Lahore says that his favourite love songs are too many to list, but “ These days I find myself loving the loving the R D Burman classics.” He also feels that the best way to express your love is through actions since words don’t mean anything if actions don’t follow. Qurram has some interesting ideas about Valentine’s Day. He feels that it should be spent doing absolutely nothing and he justifies this crazy idea by saying, “Its more fun when you surprise your loved one on a day other than Valentines.”
When everything confirms it
L’Oreal spokesperson Aamina Shiekh believes that the perfect indicator for love is when everything confirms that indeed you’re in love. Aamina’s ideas about expressing love are fairly simple, “Just tell the other person exactly the way you’re feeling it.” She says that Valentine’s Day should be spent, “Owning love, spreading it and not just for that one day”. Her favourite love song is ‘My girl’.
Expensive gift show his/her love
Rup of Josh has a unique idea about love. While the other celebrities talk more about inward feelings, Rup says that something overt can show your love, “You know it’s love when she buys you really really expensive gifts!” He feels that the best way to tell someone you love them is, “To be selfless towards them and to keep them happy, always.” About celebrating Valentine’s Day Rup feels that it should be spent, “Just like another other day, I don’t believe in these man-made events. You either love, or you don’t. One silly day in mid-February isn’t going to change that.” Rup’s favourite love song is an unreleased Josh track called ‘Jaana’, “It’s hot and coming out in a film soon,” he adds.
When everything seems perfect
Fashion designer Zahra Saeed says you know its love when your partner seems perfect. Her all time favourite love song ‘Come live your life with me’ by Peter Cincotti. Zahra feels that the best way to express your love is by respecting the other person as they are. She further adds, “If you’re in love, everyday should be spent celebrating Valentine’s day.”
So when do you know it’s love?
